Grass is always greener on the other side… or is it?
- The grass is greener where you water it…
- The grass is greener because it’s fertilized more…
- The grass is not greener… it’s fake..
- Whoever always looks for the greener grass on the side will never be able to appreciate the green grass that was right under their feet the entire time…
- If every body else’s grass always looks greener to you… then its time to consider that you might be the only one who is green in this situation.. green with envy. Nothing kills joy faster than comparison and envy.
When it comes to work situations, I do support going where the grass is greener, but is it always right to quit? No, specially if you what you are experiencing now could just be a phase, so how do you know if you should stay in your job? If most days you can tick off most of the following, you should stay and work through your phase.
- You’re Happy (genuinely, most days, most times, happy)
- You’re Learning
- The Company Is Hiring
- The Company Listens to Its Workers
- The Company Has a Plan
- The Company Fixes Its Problems
- The Company Promotes from Within
- The Company Is Open About Its Financials
- Your Accomplishments and Contributions Are Noticed and Valued
- You Look Forward to Monday (most of the time)
If it’s just a phase, then you will start seeing changes within a matter of weeks or months. Every action has a reaction. Smile more every day and the world will smile right back at you.
However, word of caution – no matter how hard you have been trying, IF you tick off all or most of the following points, then it is definitely time to cut the chord and move on in search of greener pastures.
- You’re miserable every morning.
- Your company is sinking.
- You really dislike the people you work with and/or your boss, or the general office culture/environment is tainted with extreme toxicity.
- You’re consistently stressed, negative, and/or unhappy at work. Your work-related stress is affecting your physical health.
- You don’t fit in with the corporate culture and/or you don’t believe in the company anymore.
- Your work performance is suffering.
- You no longer have good work-life balance.
- Your skills are not being tapped.
- You can’t outgrow your reputation
- Your job duties have changed/increased, but the pay hasn’t. Especially true if the company is performing well, but it’s not reflected in your salary or other rewards.
- Your ideas are not being heard.
- You are experiencing verbal abuse, sexual harassment, or are aware of any type of other illegal behavior.
- You see no opportunity for advancement in your company, no matter how you try to stretch your job description and show your managers what you’re capable of.
- When you walk into your workplace every day, you adopt a persona that you would never take on when you’re with your real friends. You can’t be yourself at work — they wouldn’t like it if you did.
- You look forward to weekends but on the weekends, you stress about work and even go into the office to get a few things done before Monday.
The grass can be greener if you water it but it does take effort and time and the cooperation of those you share your life with, whether at work or at home. When it comes to relationships, I love this anonymous advice and in my opinion, it goes both ways:
The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make his woman admirable and beautiful. A successful marriage doesn’t require a big house, a prefect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love at the center of it all.
In the age of social media, where we only see snippets of lives highlighted in their best moments, it’s easy to fall into comparison and envy. Someone else’s relationship will always look better, until you scratch beneath the surface. Personally, I feel that people who are always showing off on social media are either insecure or narcissistic, neither trait attractive or desirable. So while it’s tempting to drool over others, I suggest giving your own partner a good thoughtful lick instead 😀