People who require your silence

Questions on a dark story night that go through my head.

People who require your silence, your unquestioning compliance to themselves, to situations, to social norms, in the face of personal tragedy and heart break…. do not walk away from them… just run and run in the other direction.

They don’t have love for you, they don’t care for you. Their presence in your life is dictated by whatever need they feel for you and as their needs change, so do their requirements. You will be never be enough but you can easily spend a life time trying to reach that elusive finishing line that says you have made it, into their hearts or their inner circle.

Was the struggle worth it? Is your entire life dedicated to pleasing these people worth it? Those never ending demands with no respect of the amount of time and energy it saps from you? That it leaves you empty inside, until you are a former shell of who you used to be?

Evaluate your relationships often and I use this for myself a lot. If someone, whether related by blood or by friendship, require me to silence my voice, to live a life that is unbearable, then that person who ever they maybe are not my tribe of people. They maybe my oldest friends or even family, but their loyalty lies only with themselves and in your ability to cater to their selfish needs.

Recognize these vampires and run away. Cut off all ties if you have to. Yes it will hurt for a while and you will be left out all alone in the world. But the universe abhors emptiness, in the end, that empty space in your life will be filled with people who carries the same values as you and will care for you regardless of everything else that has gone on in your life.

Find your truth. Live by it. And you will find your tribe and your life will become all the better for it.

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Posted on March 12, 2017, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. “The universe abhors emptiness…” A great reminder, Arman! 😉 xoxoM

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