Life lessons my dog taught me
There’s quite a few lessons that my dog taught me – my 13-year-old germanshepherd named Babe. She was originally named Lady-D because she’s such a proper lady but over the years she’s turned more into a ‘Babe’, the ultra loving, sexy, confident superwoman who can do anything and everything.
Lessons I learned in being a better mother:
1. Always be patient and loving AND it’s always possible to be patient and loving under ANY circumstances: even when your ear has been accidentally snipped with scissors in the hand of a 3-year-old. The human mother would have snapped and perhaps even swatted it off but the fur mother was more concerned about the fear that the 3-year-old experienced at the sight of blood.
2. Make clear in no uncertain terms that certain things are non-negotiable: If something is not good, it is non-negotiable. I was lenient, while my GSD was far more strict on the things that my son simply could not get into.
3. Motherhood = 24/7 watch-dog session: I fell asleep, I slipped in my duties. Babe was always there, always watching, always ready to drop everything to attend to her baby first.
4. Mom’s RULE: establish the Alpha status, rule with a kind but firm hand, always look out for those you are in charge of, end of the day – mom knows best.
5. Compassion and empathy will get you further than anything else.
6. Loyalty starts at home with your most loved ones. When you place them above everything else, everything else falls into its rightful place.
7. Do not trust anyone with the child (barring the skin mother & grandmother). Doesn’t matter how well you think you know someone, if they are with your kid, you better have eyes in the back of your head watching.
8. Take short naps throughout the day. It helps you to keep up with a toddler. Restores your energy and certainly helps in keeping your patience during tantrums.
9. The little things in life are really the most important things in life. Every action of love and expression of love is important, a hug, a scratch behind the ears, lots of licks and Babe allowed him to use her like a sofa, a bed, a cushion, a teddy bear, anything he needed, she was that to him.
10. If someone hurts you and apologizes, accept the apology, forgive them. Even your most loved ones will hurt you at some point in time, accept that they have made a mistake, forgive completely and move past that episode.
Lessons I learnt that helped with my career:
1. Be friendly. A little friendliness never hurts, it shows people that you are approachable and you are far more likely to have an easier time finding allies in the corporate world.
2. Be loyal. Loyalty is not over-rated, even in the corporate world where lay-offs can happen anytime. There may not be monetary perks to loyalty but this is a highly sought after quality. What am I talking about? Don’t bad mouth your company, your clients, your company’s product.
3. Don’t bite if a growl will do the job. Translated into human context – don’t over-react. However, if you are not pleased, do not fear showing your displeasure.
4. Do show when you are pleased. Accept praise, lavish praise.
5. It’s more fun to play in teams. Share the ball – share the reward of a job well done and give due credit to your team members.
6. But ALWAYS keep your eye on the ball. If you have a career goal/ambition, don’t let anything distract you from it.
7. Accept the things you cannot change but do not let that take away your ability to dance in the rain.
8. When things are not going your way, take a break, then come right back to it. Keep at it until what you want is accomplished.
9. Don’t hold grudges. If someone yells at you, maybe they are just having a bad day. Give them some space and then go back to be friends again.
10. Know your people. Do not be fooled by what’s on the outside. It’s the little things, the smallest gestures that show you what a human being is like.
Well that’s it from the top of my head right now.
Babe is currently recovering from a tumor removal surgery. I brought her home and she’s stationed next to my bed so I can keep an eye on her 24/7. It’s been little over 24 hours and while the post-op bleeding has stopped, she is still not interested in eating much. For dog lovers out there, please send her some positive thoughts. My baby girl needs it and we (me & my son) REALLY need her to make a full recovery.
Posted on June 15, 2013, in Uncategorized and tagged a dog's life, Babe, being a better mother, career, career lesson, Career woman, Dog, Family, lesson on motherhood, life's lesson, Mother, motherhood, Parenting, Teacher, team, Woman. Bookmark the permalink. 10 Comments.