Coping with loss
We have all lost people at some point in time in our lives and we have all felt those losses intensely. If you haven’t, you are damn lucky!
I read this blog today and I have to say that while I love Yashar in general and his pro-women writing in particular, this particular piece was so personal, heartfelt and written off the cuff that it brought me close to tears. Maybe it’s not entirely the writing but the realization that when I miss my best friend Sajeda who passed away 4 years ago, I do try and imitate her jokes and her easy laughter, her lighter take on life and its inevitable hardship. I admired her courage then and I practice that courage now whenever I am fearful in the face of challenges I don’t want to face. I didn’t realize this probably until I read this writing… but that is my way of honoring her. And the other important person that I lost, Lomela, my lomu, I honor her by being true to myself, by giving me what I need instead of waiting for others to give it to me. I honor her when I ask myself “how soon is now?” and go ahead and do things instead of waiting for another time, another day, another year, another age. I miss my grandfather from whom I got discipline, work ethic and an ingrained sense of responsibility to family. I honor him by practicing these qualities.
Life happens in the moments and my life is happening right now. It’s the reason why I tell my loved ones that I miss them. It’s the reason I hug them and kiss them whenever I see them. It’s the reason I am who I am, how I am and what I am.
This is to honor those we have loved and lost… embrace and practice their best qualities and they will live on in us.
- Wordless Wednesday – Coping with Death (blindedbythebite.com)