The Dark Side of Ego
Ego – a word full of trap, if it defines who we are. Every human being to some degree is egotistical and to a large extent our ego is defined by how we see ourselves and the world around us. I have a neighbor and certain members within my own family tree who expect unquestioning loyalty from their household staff, the kind of scraping and bowing that were awarded to them 40-50 years ago. What they forget is that times have changed and they need to change the way they behave and their expectation as well.
It is not the older generation alone that is trapped by misplaced ego – we all get trapped at one time or another. I have seen young people of all ages treat those lower in status (and I am talking purely monetary) with contempt, to get angry and nurse grudges over real or imagined slights. The main question then is not what actually happened or even the apologies offered the fact that it even took place wanes in comparison to everything else.
Normally, in the work place, I would recommend a healthy dose of self defining ego. It can help you set your goals, propel you to reach them too but a bit too much and before you know it, you’ll be imagining slights that had not taken place, conspiracy where there are none and it would be very easy to slide into the world of corporate politics and back stabbing which serves no one ultimately. So I guess the next question is how does one maintain a healthy dose of ego without going overboard?
Easiest answer, ask those around you or people with whom you have regular interaction and they can help you sort out whether you are reacting prematurely or excessively to events or people around you. In which case, perhaps the best policy to adopt would be to remind yourself that each person is unique and everyone has the right to live and let others live in their own ways.
Take a chill pill even as you maintain your aggressive pursuit of that pinnacle of success which you have defined for yourself 🙂