What a rant!!! A beautiful rant… unapologetic… straight forward delivery. A MUST read!
Originally posted on The Belle Jar:
I know that I’m not supposed to say this. I know that as a good little third-wave feminist I’m supposed to sweetly explain to you how much I love and value men. I’m supposed to trot out my husband of nearly five years, my son, all of my male friends and relatives and display them as a sort of badge of honour, proof that I am not a man-hater. I’m supposed to hold out my own open palms, prove to you how harmless I am, how nice I am. Above all, I’m supposed to butter you up, you men, stroke your egos, tell you how very important you are in the fight for equality. This is the right way to go about it, or so I’ve been told. As my mother would say, you catch more flies with honey.
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I knew that 2014 was going to be a year of big changes for me. I knew it was going to be busy. I knew that I was biting off more than I can chew.
What I didn’t know is how much 2014 would change me…..
Starting a Master’s degree in Development Studies was not a complete whim. I was intrigued by the subjects and the course curriculum. I knew that I would find it interesting.
What I didn’t know is how much I would learn.
I love most of my professors so far. I hate that I have to do so many assignments but I love that they are constantly challenging our boundaries, forcing us to grow, to expand the realm of our thinking and understanding.
I have gone home and dreamt of the things that we discussed in class lectures. I have chilled out with my class mates only to realize that each of us bring something very unique to the table. We learn not only from our professors but from each other.
Group assignments are a lesson in dynamics. For a change, I am no longer in the helm, I tow the line and deliver even when work threatens to take over and I fear that I will miss deadlines. At work I am expected to be the expert in what I do. Everyday I make decisions, discuss, debate, hold & defend my position, devising ways to maximise our impact on the bottom line. At class, I am a student, I am not expected to be an expert, I am not expected to know what I am doing. It’s a complete role reversal.
Someone asked me yesterday, if you hate maths, why did you graduate in Finance & Banking? The only honest reply to that is that I needed to face my fears. I needed to know that no matter how scared I am of failure, with effort and perseverance, I can learn, do, get over anything. I had 40 A’s out of 45 subjects by the time I graduated. It had taken one semester to find my footing and the rest had gone easier. Now I hope for a repeat performance but I also realize that I have my hands in way more pies then before. I evaluate options and ration out my time like precious commodity.
2014 is also going to be the year that I am going to jump, both feet in, into something I had vowed to never embark on, ever again. See that? never again? really? I was so sure that this was something I would never repeat again. And now life’s thrown a wrench into my plans and I am watching myself change. I am sure somewhere the 3 sisters of Fate are laughing hard in the background.
And I am reminded that in life, you never know what will come your way. Fear is not an option and Change really is the only constant in life :)
To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship.
~Doménico Cieri Estrada
You can’t plant a seed and then wait around, hovering over the newly planted seed, waiting for it to grow. The seed will sprout when it is ready to do so. Apart from watering every other day or so, there’s nothing much that you can do to make it grow faster.
Relationships are the same. You need to give relationships time and space to grow. This applies for both professional and personal life.
You have been to a business mixer and you meet someone new. You have exchanged your business cards and /or sent each other emails expressing a desire to be of mutual benefit sometime in the future. The future is not going to come any faster if you deluge them with emails and updates on your activities. Unless there’s a clear case of win-win situation in further follow ups, the first meeting is not very likely to grow into something more meaningful anytime soon. But you can keep your new contact in mind and put them in touch with opportunities that you come across later which you think maybe interesting for them.
Which one of these two scenarios do you think is more likely to end up into a fruitful long-lasting relationship?
The same applies to personal situations. Way too often, I meet people who want to be counted as friends from the very first meeting onwards. To me being called a friend as lightly as that means nothing. Friendships don’t grow out of thin airs. They grow out of consistency, mutual respect and desire for that friendship from both parties. For me …. Friendship is earned, not awarded.
In romantic relationships, specially new one’s people often make the mistake of thinking that somehow now that they have gotten together with the special someone, their lives are going to smash together into one new glorious master piece. Wake up and smell the roses. You had a life before you met him and he had a life before he met you. While the intoxication of a new relationship can be quite overwhelming, resist the temptation to behave as if it’s the only worthy thing that is going on in your life. Don’t lose touch with your friends or families, don’t forget to keep taking time for yourself and to pursue your own interests and hobbies. You need to do it for yourself and he needs to do it for himself.
When both of you have separate hobbies, careers, friends, interests, the conversation that you have when you are together will be that much more richer. If you ditch everything and everyone else in favor of a new relationship, you might find yourself stranded alone when the relationship doesn’t work out. Or even if it does, chances are that you might find yourself feeling bored or stifled.
The principle of planting and waiting for the seed to grow is applicable for almost everything in our life. Your career, your education, your efforts into new ventures… you do your part, then you wait patiently for the results to come.
wow! quite an interesting and detailed write up… well worth the read, specially for those in the development field.
Originally posted on DNamto:
It’s ironical :The world’s hunger is getting ridiculous. There is more fruit in a rich man’s shampoo than in poor man’s plate
The world produces enough to feed the entire global population of 7 billion people. And yet, one person in eight on the planet goes to bed hungry each night. In some countries, one child in three is underweight. Hunger is one piece of a complex of interrelated social ills. It is linked intricately to global economic, political, and social power structures; modes of development and consumption; population dynamics; and social biases based on race, ethnicity, gender, and age.
Why does hunger exist?
People living in poverty cannot afford nutritious food for themselves and their families. This makes them weaker and less able to earn the money that would help them escape poverty and hunger. This is not just a day-to-day problem: when children are…
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Love how he got turned down by Twitter and Facebook and then goes on to create his own thing… “Whats App” and 4 years later, he’s selling it to Facebook for 19 billion dollars.
Reminds me of that saying: “Go where you are celebrated, not merely tolerated” :D
Originally posted on TechCrunch:
His job at Yahoo, where he’d filled many engineering roles over 11 years, had come to an end.
He was networking with recruiters:
networking with recruiters, venture capitalists, playing ultimate frisbee—
Brian Acton (@brianacton) May 20, 2009
He met with Twitter. Twitter said no:
Got denied by Twitter HQ. That's ok. Would have been a long commute.—
Brian Acton (@brianacton) May 23, 2009
He met with Facebook. Facebook said no:
Facebook turned me down. It was a great opportunity to connect with some fantastic people. Looking forward to life's next adventure.—
Brian Acton (@brianacton) August 03, 2009
So he and Jan Koum, a colleague from Yahoo, set out to do their own thing.
Life is crazy.
What if the world turned on its head and you woke up one day to a society like this.
What would change for you?
as a man…
as a woman…
as a human being…
Wise men say before you judge someone, walk a mile in their shoe. Yet we specialize in jumping …. to conclusions, to forcing others to live up to what we expect from them, what society expects, what religion expects, tribal laws, family laws/customs or whatever else we can drum up…… ever stop to wonder what they expect from themselves?
Have you ever asked someone what they want for themselves and REALLY listened?
This is not an invitation to debate, it IS an invitation to stop and think. Take a moment, take a breath and reflect.
Now who would’ve thought that “Spending more time away from the office” is something that Bill Gates would’ve done had he known then, what he knows now. Interesting read!
Originally posted on Quartz:
In an “ask me anything” question and answer session on Reddit, Gates revealed some of what he’d do differently given what he’s experienced and learned. These are a few of the most fascinating bits:
Get ahead of the game on machine learning
When asked what he would focus on if he were currently a computer science student (and what would be the most significant type of technology in coming years: Gates’ answer focused on machine learning:
The ultimate is computers that learn. So called deep learning which started at Microsoft and is now being used by many researchers looks like a…
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Psychology defines compartmentalization as a defense mechanism, or a coping strategy, which doesn’t impart a very good connotation. Put simply, it’s how our minds deal with conflicting internal standpoints simultaneously.
Compartmentalizing is something that doesn’t usually come easily to people. You can see this in the way people will bring problems from home to work, let that affect their performance and vice versa. For some not so strange reason, I seem to have the opposite problem. My life is compartmentalized in so many segments that I find it difficult to allow them to mesh together. Maybe that’s also the reason I challenged myself last year to allow a disintegration in the boundaries, to mesh in all the different parts and build a new collage of the different parts.
Compartmentalizing is good, as long as you can handle it. To compartmentalize is to shove something in a box in your mind. It isolates the issue, allowing you breathing space, to get back to it with a cool head, a certain sense of detachment if you will, that allows you to approach it in a new way. In my own experience, this detachment has allowed me more flexibility and find more solutions, it’s probably the reason that I can come up with a Plan A, B, C and D to most any situation.
Compartmentalization however doesn’t work if you are trying to run away from issue, to avoid dealing with them. You do not get to shove things in a box in your mind and pretend like you have forgotten them. The issues don’t leave, resolve and in the back of your mind, you know that they exist. In extreme cases, this denial can lead to disassociate disorder and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.
The reason I do it is automatic but it’s a skill like every other that we acquire. Being able to compartmentalise can help you to achieve more, be more effective and efficient. It allows me to do a 40 hour week, my two volunteer work, one full time evening masters. There is no end to how much more you can handle. Anyone can train themselves to be anything, us humans have unlimited potential, if we focus on expanding our potential.
This is not a new phenomena infact a vast majority of us do practice it daily. For example, you might go home, see your kid smile at you and completely forget the stress you carried over from work.It’s what people talk about when they say that they want more work-life balance. It’s what allows multi-taskers to be effective. Leaders to stay on top of all the varied things that go on under them in an organization, team or league. It is our unconcious mind protecting us automatically from being overwhelmed.
If you would like to use the process of compartmentalization in a concscious and effective way, then I suggest the following steps:
1. To effectively compartmentalize, isolate the issue. Don’t confuse one thing with another. Be very clear on what you are isolating.
2. Once the issue/problem/riddle is isolated, focus on it. Really focus on it. Place that issue on the table in front of you like a rubics cube and look at it from all angles. BUT do this only for short periods of time.
3. Once you have analysed a problem, you can then start working on a solution. A little bit at a time.
4. Once the problems been handled, close the compartment. The problem existed, you handled it. Don’t dwell on it. Don’t file it away somewhere in the back of your mind in order to return to it over and over again. You have already given it your full attention. You have already solved the issue at hand to your best possible ability. Now close it and be done with it.
5. Learn to say “no”. Get comfortable saying “no”. Prioritize your time and your attention. While there are unlimited supplies of problems, both at home and at work, you as a human however only have a limited supply of energy and time to devote to them. So learn to get comfortable saying “no” to things that have no business in your life. And once you have said no, move on. These do not have to be filed or compartmentalized in order to be handled at a later time. It’s like cleaning your PC when it gets virus infected. You purge and reboot :)
What a beautiful clear way of explaining the difference between therapy and life coaching… hats off to Jeff :D
Originally posted on Everyday Power Blog:
Life Coaching is a steady growing field and market, that is in higher demand everyday. At the same time, it’s so interesting because most people have NO IDEA what life coaching is all about. Many people have some idea what therapy is about, but still need more information on what life coaching is exactly, how it’s different and what are it’s benefits.
So, I put together this list. I hope it helps!
Life Coaching is mainly about:
- Developing a vision and purpose for ones life, business or both – getting clear on where you are and where you want to be
- Dealing with the present and planning for the future – creating a map and plan for the future
- Setting and reaching meaningful goals – set goals that excite you and elevate your performance
- Performing at higher levels – operate at higher levels with greater clarity and intention
- Creating solutions…
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